I am "learning" to be a good friend to these wonderful people around me. I am just sooo clueless on what I am supposed to do and especially how I am supposed to feel.
Is there a book about how to be a good friend? Or do you just screw up, make stupid comments, big mistakes and whatever and hope that you are forgiven?
I do believe "learning" to be a good friend is a lifelong lesson. Even though everyone seems to be so different...in such different places in their lives...searching for a range of things...we all desire and need one thing- to be cared for. When I say cared for...a number of feelings come to mind to determine that phrase...supported, encouraged, loved unconditionally, easily forgiven, etc. Figuring out how to make someone feel as though they are continually cared for to me is the definition of a what a good friend is. Because we all grow and change emotionally throughout our lives, what we need in a friend changes too...which in turn often makes it hard to always know what a. we ourselves need in a friend and b.what our friends truly need.
You are SO not clueless on how to be a good friend my dear. Maybe what you need in a friend is changing (or has changed) and so now you are starting to question what you provide as a friend yourself? I too question what it is I provide for my friends and those I spend my time with. Not always am i that impressed with myself...but, during those questionable times I go back to what I love... searching for ways that I can show my friends that I truly care for them...for them to see outwardly what's in my heart.